Neil Gaimen wrote, “Everybody has a secret world inside of them. I mean everybody. All of the people in the whole world, I mean everybody — no matter how dull and boring they are on the outside. Inside them they've all got unimaginable, magnificent, wonderful, stupid, amazing worlds... Not just one world. Hundreds of them. Thousands, maybe.”
Some are made up but SO many are true.
It the true stories that get stuck in our gut and help create who we are and why we behave the way we do.
I am a curious person. I am a good listener. Years of interrupting have taught me to let a person finish. Well, that and the rule from group therapy that until it's my turn to speak, shut up.
By listening, I can hear what the other person has to say. On the phone, sometimes people think I am not there; I have learned to stay with a story.
Each of us is important enough to get the floor.
Conversation happens after the story.
There are, however, a few people in my life where the conversations are hilarious in that they start off at point A and then zigzag to point C and then W and then back to A. We are all over the map. But we get to where we started and I know I always feel validated by their listening and I hope they feel the same way.
Bill Buckley, my dad, was a great believer of the line, "The truth shall set you free."
Sometimes, I waver between does it set me free or will it set off a chain reaction of emotion I am not ready to cope with yet. When the answer is a chain reaction, I know I am not fully up to the task.
I tell my story in bits and pieces. Sometimes my voice is loud and proud and sometimes is is trembling with fear. I just keep telling it.
A lot of the time I am only telling my stories to my therapist and my journal. That's perfectly OK for me at this point in my life.
Tell your story. It's brilliant.
Just to get it all out what's in my head
'N I, I'm feeling a little peculiar
'N so I wake in the morning and I step outside
'N I take a deep breath
'N I get real high
'N I scream from the top of my lungs
What's goin' on
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