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Not My Story

1/22/2013

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I come from a family of intensely curious people  We want to know all about you. Whatever you are willing to share with us, we are giddy with excitement to hear.

Despite my tendency to chat with nearly anyone on the planet, I am a very discreet person. I am honored to be privy to many of my friend's stories. I don't share them unless I can be vague about it or if I have permission to do so.

Every once in a while, I screw up.

I did so recently and the result was a friend ended up very angry with me. It was most certainly not intentional. It was most certainly not done maliciously. I shared their story to help with my own story, but, in the end, it was not my story to tell.

I did apologize. I did say I was so very sorry. I don't know if they have forgiven me. I hope they will.

My sincere hope is that my friend knows I never set out to hurt them or make them angry or uncomfortable. My hope is that they know just how much I love them and THAT is the feeling they have when they think of me.

Have you ever experienced this?

Music is called "Through New Eyes" ~ a gorgeous piano piece.
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Lisa link
1/21/2013 09:38:19 pm

Being able to say "I'm wrong and I'm sorry" is life changing.
Like Ms Maya says, hopefully your friend will know you well enough to know your heart.
Good luck xo

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Maggie
1/21/2013 10:22:33 pm

Thanks Lisa.

I certainly hope so.
xo

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Meredith
1/22/2013 06:30:59 am

I too did this (probably more than once) when a story from a friend, meant to be kept in confidence, seemed too good not to share the vague details in another setting. And she too was righteously angry with me for quite some time. Eventually, she forgave, and I learned, and all was well again.

One more area for me to clean up this tendency is that I love to tell stories about my kids when my kids were young and just getting a foothold in the world. I always tell them with the positive spin right out front, but it's been very hard for me to "grok it" that even they have a right to their stories. Just because they're my kids, doesn't mean their stories are mine to tell. I owe both of them a few mea culpas on this one.

So you're in good company, even if it doesn't feel good. The lesson is worth learning.

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Meredith
1/22/2013 06:33:20 am

P.S. Loved the music today. You might want to try Tim Danis, Carrie Newcomer, Holly Near, Cris Williamson, Sweet Honey in the Rock, to name a few really good retreat pieces.

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Maggie
1/22/2013 11:22:41 am

I quasi learned my lesson with my kids due to Facebook - they absolutely did NOT like when I shared their stuff. And so I stopped. Every so often I share something, but it's usually my story that happens to involve them.

I will check out the music for certain - I've heard of some of the people.

Thanks for your words, Meredith; they are always much appreciated.

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