At some point last summer I asked a friend how they were. They replied, "Fine." I suspected they were anything but fine and I called them on it. They assured me they were, really, in fact, "fine."
I mentioned this to a different friend. A no holds barred looks at life exactly how it is and then tells you friend. (We all need this friend in our life, by the way...)
And their response to me was, "Of course they're fine. If they say they suck they have to admit to sucking and no one wants to admit to that. So they are creating a reality of fine...even if it isn't."
Oooohhhhhhhh.
Now. I am pretty good at this life stuff. But I must admit to stopping for way longer than a second and thinking on this. Because we DO create our own realities. Some days, despite our best efforts, they really do suck. And other days, well, life is, in fact, unicorns, rainbows and flowers.
It is entirely up to us, and, how we handle our current reality, to determine just who we are. Thankfully, that can change pretty rapidly. MOST days I chose to be on the side of unicorns, rainbows and flowers - it really is quite lovely here. There are days of grief and sadness and you know, the "dark side" of life, but I try to snap out of them as quickly as I can.
We've got one try of this thing called life and to be miserable would do me no good.
In the end, was my friend fine? According to them, yes they were.
And that, is all that matters.
I mentioned this to a different friend. A no holds barred looks at life exactly how it is and then tells you friend. (We all need this friend in our life, by the way...)
And their response to me was, "Of course they're fine. If they say they suck they have to admit to sucking and no one wants to admit to that. So they are creating a reality of fine...even if it isn't."
Oooohhhhhhhh.
Now. I am pretty good at this life stuff. But I must admit to stopping for way longer than a second and thinking on this. Because we DO create our own realities. Some days, despite our best efforts, they really do suck. And other days, well, life is, in fact, unicorns, rainbows and flowers.
It is entirely up to us, and, how we handle our current reality, to determine just who we are. Thankfully, that can change pretty rapidly. MOST days I chose to be on the side of unicorns, rainbows and flowers - it really is quite lovely here. There are days of grief and sadness and you know, the "dark side" of life, but I try to snap out of them as quickly as I can.
We've got one try of this thing called life and to be miserable would do me no good.
In the end, was my friend fine? According to them, yes they were.
And that, is all that matters.
